3 Changes: How Coach Kino and the Red Giants Revolutionized My Approach to Dating
The dating world can feel like a battlefield. Rejection stings, frustration mounts, and the elusive "perfect match" seems further away with each failed attempt. For years, I felt lost, navigating this complex landscape with little success. Then, three significant changes – inspired by Coach Kino and the Red Giants community – completely transformed my approach and ultimately, my dating life. This article details those pivotal shifts and how they helped me achieve far greater success.
1. Shifting from Neediness to Confidence: Embracing the Kino Code
My initial approach to dating was riddled with neediness. I chased validation, desperately seeking approval from women. This needy behavior repelled rather than attracted. Enter Coach Kino and his teachings on Kino escalation. This wasn't about physical touch alone; it was about building connection through comfortable, playful physical interaction.
Understanding the Power of Kino
Kino isn't about being aggressive or pushy. It's about gauging comfort levels and subtly escalating physical contact. A simple touch on the arm during conversation, a playful nudge, or a high-five – these seemingly small actions build rapport and demonstrate confidence.
Before the Kino Code: My interactions were awkward and stilted, filled with anxious energy. I focused on what I wanted rather than what the woman needed.
After the Kino Code: I learned to read body language and adjust my approach accordingly. I became more comfortable initiating playful physical contact, which led to deeper connections and more genuine interactions.
2. The Red Giants Community: Finding Support and Accountability
The Red Giants community isn't just a collection of individuals; it's a supportive network focused on personal growth and improvement in all areas of life, particularly dating. Joining this community provided essential accountability and a sense of belonging I'd been missing.
The Importance of a Supportive Network
Navigating the complexities of dating can be incredibly isolating. The Red Giants community breaks down this isolation. It provides a space to share experiences, receive constructive feedback, and learn from others’ successes and failures.
Before the Red Giants: I felt alone in my struggles, often resorting to self-destructive behaviors in response to rejection.
After the Red Giants: The shared experiences and support within the community fostered resilience. I learned to view setbacks as learning opportunities and celebrated successes with like-minded individuals. The accountability factor was particularly helpful; knowing others were tracking my progress kept me motivated.
3. Focusing on Value and Providing High-Quality Interactions
Before, my focus was solely on getting a date. I lacked understanding of providing genuine value to a potential partner. Coach Kino’s teachings, combined with the insights from the Red Giants, shifted this perspective.
Providing Value Beyond the Date
This change encompassed several aspects:
- Developing genuine interests: Pursuing hobbies and passions made me a more interesting person. This, in turn, made my interactions more engaging and attractive.
- Becoming a high-value individual: This isn't about material possessions but about personal growth, confidence, and self-improvement.
- Offering genuine connection: Focusing on creating meaningful interactions rather than solely focusing on securing a date.
Before the shift: My conversations were shallow and lacked depth, reflecting my own lack of self-awareness.
After the shift: My interactions became more engaging and fulfilling, both for myself and the women I met. I built stronger connections because I was genuinely interested in getting to know them, not just obtaining a date.
Conclusion:
The three changes – embracing Kino escalation, joining the Red Giants community, and focusing on providing value – revolutionized my approach to dating. These changes aren't quick fixes; they require consistent effort and self-reflection. However, the results – increased confidence, stronger connections, and greater success in dating – have been immensely rewarding. If you're struggling in the dating world, consider adopting these strategies and finding your own path to success.